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’We can all make a difference’

Pinky Lilani is one of the most passionate, inspirational supporters of women, of all colours and creeds, in Britain today. The founder and chairman of the Asian Women of Achievement Awards, the Women of the Future Awards, the Women of the Future Economic Empowerment Summit, the Inspirational Women’s Network and the Women of Achievement Ambassadors Programme, Pinky’s events and initiatives continue to grow. A well-known food guru, Pinky’s Spice Magic seminars are a fantastic team-building experience for corporate groups. She is also a mentor with the Prince’s Youth Business Trust, a member of the steering committee for the Cherie Blair foundation, a board member of Sapphire and a member of the court of Brunel University She is patron of the Asian Women’s Resource Centre, the National Black Police Association and the Westminster Society. Pinky is also a celebrated speaker and expert on diversity issues and motivation. Asian Lite deputy editor Ajitha Nair speaks to Pinky Lilani.

1. Now, you are an achiever and a huge inspiration to women from all walks of life. Your reflections on your personal journey from being a noone to that someone who could make a difference to society?

I really don’t think of myself as being any different to anyone else. I think we can all make a difference. What is crucial to believe this and to work on it is a sense of knowing what one can do well and of course what one feels passionately about. If you do what you love the results are simply phenomenal. Passion and enthusiasm are energising forces.

2. You have shaped up and championed several initiatives for women including the ‘Asian women of Achievement Awards’. What are your core objectives in general? What is your vision for such initiatives?

I really felt that for too long Asian women were not given the recognition they deserved and that stereotyping was rampant. It was to provide a platform for the variety of women’s achievements that led me to begin my journey. Appreciation and recognition led to even higher aspirations. Of course the importance of role models and mentors for those coming up behind is crucial.

3. As you are passionate on social issues, so is your passion for cooking. How did you step into it and make an indomitable success with Spice Magic? What is that secret magic to spice it up in the way you do?

I love food. I grew up in a house where we had the most delicious meals. We had one of the best chefs and my parents entertained a great deal, so the creations from the kitchen were unending. Learning to replicate the dishes from our cook was a wonderful adventure. I have a huge limitation – I simply cook by intuition and taste – so writing a recipe book was hard work to measure everything. I am still amazed at how so many people who cook regularly are fairly limited in their understanding of techniques and spices. You need passion, positive energy, fresh ingredients and a love for sharing your food, to be really good.

4. Whom do you revere the most in your life, if any? Do you believe in role models? Do you chance upon them or is it a deliberate search?

There are so many people who have inspired me: my parents with their kindness, integrity and ability to deal with people; my sister who is clever, creative and my best friend; my brother and sister-in-law, both of whom are people of incredible integrity doing so much for others. Yes, I think role models are important because they raise aspiration levels. I think one can chance upon them but a conscious search in the most unlikely place pays off.

5. As an Asian woman, the word ‘sacrifice’ is termed sacred as can be. Do you consider that it is only woman who has to sacrifice something along the way, if at all? What is your opinion of Asian women in the UK?

I do think – and this is only my personal opinion; I am sure a lot of people would disagree – but for me, women have to give in a bit more. Life is not always fair or equally balanced and if both people dig in their heels on issues it definitely will not work. I have been happy to be able to give in to my husband at times. It does not diminish me. Quite the contrary. It gives me a good feeling!

6. Your favourite mantra – your unique quotable quote to life?

You have not lived a perfect day unless you have done something for someone who can never repay you. The fragrance always stays in the hand that gives the rose. Those are quotes by others. The greatest joy is giving and the greatest gift one can give is kindness.